So, the previous weekend I learned that sometimes social classes just don't mix. I was friends with a girl, (well, I thought I was) for about 15 years now, who is from a lower class family that works in factories, and they struggle to get by. My family is in the middle class, my dad owns a tire shop in Clarksville, and we get by pretty comfortably. Over the past few months, we went from hanging out every chance we could, whether it was just to go run errands, or take my son over to another one of her friends house to play with her kids. Well, since I started school in January, we started hanging out less and less. I started dating my boyfriend at the end of January, and she comes from a single parent household, never knew her dad. So, I think that contributed to what happened this past weekend. I receive a message from her sister last Saturday morning, basically saying to just stay away from her family, and they don't want me to come around anymore. At first I was pretty hurt by the message, how could a 15 year friendship just go down the drain just like that? Then as the week progressed, I started thinking about our lesson on social classes and People Like Us, and I started thinking about where we were in life, she's been working in the factory setting for 8 years now, and I am here at Tech working on my BSN. She has ambition, just no drive to get there, and I am working towards the best life I can possibly provide for my son and myself. Lesson learned, be more picky with who I call friend. Moral of the story, try to stick within your social class.
Um... I don't think that's a good moral. I've from a working class family, so maybe I see it differently than you do. Assuming this is based on class(which a huge leap after 15 years of friendship), maybe you should bee more understanding. Having no hope for a better future is tough. It's hard to be poor and I'm sure it's hard for her to see you getting oppurtunities she'll never get but I can't imagine ending a friendship because of class differences. I have friends from middle class families and often I'm invited to do things I simply cannot afford. It stings but they understand and don't shame me about it. We absolutely SHOULD have friends from other social classes. How else can we possibly make this world better? We need to try to see each others point of view.
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